Saying what you mean

The significance of words is an emotional thing. Significance is one of the two meanings of meaning. The other meaning of meaning is definition, which is a logical thing.

For example, when I'm upset, people tell me to relax or calm down. This made no sense to me; if the problem still exists, calming down won't help it, and relaxing won't solve it. Most of the time, I can't calm down or relax if the problem still exists. The meaning by definition is nonsense to me.

However, the significance of their words is this: You are upsetting me; please stop expressing your emotions in a manner that upsets me.

I can understand that. I can dampen the expression of my upsetness. But please, people, say what you mean; express exlicitely the significance of your words.

Today, God pointed this out to me, and a lifetime's worth of stress vanished. Triessentialism is a philosophy uniquely suited to aid and improve psychology.